Being single and content can sometimes just be straight hard. You scroll through Facebook and Instagram and everyones status is popping up reading "engaged" or "just married". You think to yourself, "God what about me?" You see people in relationships that appear to be having the time of their LIFE while you consider your life and find yourself straight bored and lonely. You may have somedays you just want to cry out and say God, "When are you going to send me that man/woman?!"
Well to encourage you, I will share my journey in singleness.
"For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven..." Ecclesiastes 3:1
Growing up, I was the one that felt like they always has to be in a relationship. I felt that if I was in a relationship that it would qualify me and validate me. Jay Z and Beyonce made it look so easy! I felt that if I was in a relationship, all of life's problems would simply be answered. However, upon looking back, I realized that it was actually a desperate outcry that validated the fact that I simply needed Jesus Christ in my life. Not more church because that didn't matter to me at the time, not more Gospel music in my Pandora account, but a real, up close and personal relationship with Jesus. I needed to encounter the living God, the God of ALL creation, the One who I was created to be in a relationship with in the first place.
A single romantic relationship cannot replace the relationship we were first created to have with God. When God created us, He created us to have a relationship with Him. Yet some how, along the way, many of us got it confused.
"They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator--who is forever praised." Romans 1:25
When I got old enough to really start dating seriously, I was more interested in pleasing God's creation (my boyfriend) than the Creator- the One who knew me before He put me in my mothers womb. I settled for random guys just because I was bored and felt lonely. Moreover, when I did get in a serious relationship, I seemed to often totally push God out of the picture.
An idol is anything you chase, love or pursue more than you do God. We can make an idol out of anything- a career, an opportunity, the idea of marriage and even another person. I grew to idolize being in a relationship. That's all I wanted. However with that decision, I was basically saying to God, "You alone are simply not enough for me." When you choose people and things over God, that is essentially the sentiment you are expressing to Him - You alone are not enough.
"You shall have no other gods before me." Exodus 20:3
When we search for things outside of God in expectation of those things bringing us total satisfaction, it is idol worship. It is in Christ alone, that we should first find total satisfaction in. Christ loved us so much that He demonstrated it on the Cross, dying just for you, for the forgiveness and redemption of our sins.
God will not bless you with something before you are ready. God is a sovereign, righteous and a just God. If God sent everything you wanted according to your timeline, He wouldn't be God. Moreover, your life would probably look like a hot mess if you immediately got everything you asked for. For example, if I gave a child some firecrackers to light on their own in the backyard, they would probably kill themself. Why? Because they are too young and not ready to do something like that on their own. Everything God tells us is to protect us. He's not going to send you anything until you are ready. He simply loves us way too much.
Think about when God first created Adam. It was just Adam and God in the Garden of Eden. They walked together & fellowshipped without any interruption. Adam delighted in God and God delighted in Adam. Moreover, Adam was content. Adam wasn't stomping around the garden complaining like, "Lord, I need a wife!" He was single and content in God. Then at the proper time, God crafted Eve from Adam's rib. Everything happened according to God's perfect time and perfect plan.
God looks down from His throne in Heaven on all of His creation. He sees everything. He knows exactly what you are ready for and exactly what you are not. Many of us have deceived ourselves and think we are ready, yet we are far from it. Some of us are so far off that God is in Heaven just shaking His head at us, like 'Only if they knew!'
Take this time to really get before God and stay there. Marriage is the second most important decision you will make in this life, apart from giving your life to Christ. Don't rush it. The Apostle Paul who was single and who dedicated His life to focusing on the Lord's work tells us this:
"I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord." 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
If you are reading this and single, enjoy this season. It is a wonderful gift from God! There are things you can do when your single that you may NEVER be able to do once married. While you are single, it should drive you to seek God and His purpose for your life even more.
"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." Matthew 6:33
When I was single, I was having the time of my life. In no way am I sugar-coating this or exaggerating. Christ energizes me. He refreshes me. He comforts me. He restores me. He renews me. God has healed me and restored me and I have made the decision, that just like Adam before Eve, that I too will be content.
If you have wrestled with being single and content, say this prayer:
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You for Your unfailing and unconditional love toward me. Calm my anxious heart and lead me in the way of everlasting. Lord give me peace in this season of my life. I surrender my every step to you and I say guide me. Teach me how to be content with my portion in life and not compare to others. I repent of my sins (mention them) and of anything or anyone I have put before You in the past. I will place no idols before you. I know you are perfecting everything concerning my life and I know your timing is perfect. Teach me how to be more patient, more gentle, more kind, more compassionate and more understanding. Fill me with your wisdom and fine-tune my discernment. You are my Lord and I will wait on You. I will seek You with my whole heart and delight in You all the days of my life. In the name of Jesus. Amen.
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